Letting go can be one of the most difficult things you get to do in this life. Whether it’s your past, a bad relationship, or that dream job you’ve always wanted — it’s not easy. However, in order for God to move on your behalf, it is necessary.


We are all familiar with the story of Abraham and his boy Isaac — the child of the promise. Now, one day God said to Abraham, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love — Isaac — and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you” (Genesis 22:2).

And you may ask yourself “well why did God ask Abraham to lay down the one thing that mattered to him the most?” Simple, because He was giving Abraham a second chance. A second chance to let go and trust Him completely. The first chance Abraham had was during his waiting season. And we all know how that part of the story went. Yes, he failed in trusting God when he decided to take matters into his own hands and impregnated Hagar. So this time around, Abraham wasn’t planning to fail another test. Long story short, God did not allow him to harm his child.


With all that being said, we all have an ‘Isaac’ God is asking us to lay down. Laying down your ‘Isaac’ means completely submitting what matters to you the most. Surrendering your will to His’. In some cases, God asks us to let go only to return it all back. Yet in other cases, things and/or people are just not meant to stay. Once you lay it all down, you’re allowing God to show His glory through you and through your situation.


There’s a parable of Jesus in Matthew that explains how the old and the new are not compatible. “And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins” (Matthew 2:22). You see, old wineskins are stretched to their limit each time wine is fermented inside of them. Therefore, pouring new wine in stretched wineskins will cause it to burst. Now the same goes for you and I when it comes to asking God to bless us while we are still holding on to our past. It doesn’t work. We have to let go of the old so that the new can take place.

What is God asking you to let go of today?


D. Arelis


Affirmations are short powerful statements that have a healing effect on our subconscious mind when repeated over time.

By writing and speaking out affirmations, you activate a part of your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) at the top of the brain stem. The RAS makes the words that we repeat over time, become part of who we are. So the next time someone tells you that affirmations are silly, educate them about how affirmations not only changes your reality but they will absolutely benefit your mental and physical health too.

The other part of the brain that is activated by the conscious repetition of affirmations is the ventral striatum and the ventromedial prefrontal cortex. In response, these parts of the brain release chemicals that help – amongst other things – tos disease levels of stress, encourage healthy behaviors, and improve academic performance.

To conclude, keep in mind that affirmations only work: 1. When you believe they are true; if you’re just going through the motions, affirmations simply won’t work; and 2. When you say them properly. Studies have shown that the subconscious mind differentiate between past and future and, only reacts on the now. As such, it’s important to make sure that the language of your affirmations is centered in the presence.


With all this said, let me introduce my second book “Affirmations for The Soul”. Consisting of 30 short affirmations, this book will help you refocus your subconscious mind and reap the benefits of a calmer and more positive outlook. You can download it as an ebook from iTunes and Amazon and it will be available in more formats shortly.

D. Arelis

Forming pathways

“As a man thinketh, so is he…”

Sometimes we focus more on removing toxic people from our lives and forget to remove our own toxicity. Yes, we all have toxic behaviors.

Our thoughts are extremely powerful. Imagine you have a peeled lemon in your hand. Now visualize yourself taking a bite out of this lemon. I bet your mouth is watery now, right?

This is a perfect example of how your thoughts can control your reality. Even though you know that in reality you’re not biting a lemon, your mind perceives it as a reality and because your brain thinks as such, it starts sending signals to the glands in your mouth which then causes you to salivate.

Now, the same goes for those self-destructive thoughts you allow to go through your mind daily. One thought affects your entire being by making you depressed; making you lose your appetite; interrupt your sleeping pattern – it controls your reality. These thoughts become a habit. Luckily, a habit that can be dealt with. How?

Let’s look at it from a biological perspective. Neural pathways are formed in our brain when we start creating habits. These habits consist of negative, repetitive thoughts. Repetitive thoughts form neural pathways in our mind and the more these thoughts are reinforced, the stronger these pathways become and the more automatically they become.

Now, in order to deal with the habit, you need to first of all, understand that new habits take approximately 18 days to 254 days to form. So be patience. Patience is one of the first steps towards the habit. Secondly, speak against that thought and replace it with the opposite regardless of how you’re feeling.

In conclusion, it’s basically the “law of attraction”. Change your mindset and you will change your ways. Start forming constructive pathways today!


D. Arelis XO



Wolves don’t lose sleep over opinions of sheep

One thing I like the most about writing is the transparency I am able to give to my readers. Lately I’ve been dealing with trying not to let certain people get the best of me. But what do you do when people are spreading lies about you? What do you do when people go out of their way to try to make you feel inferior? Simple, ignore their unstable behavior — don’t allow them to make you feel any kind of way. Be in complete control of your emotions. The moment you start feeling angry, sad, intimidated, is because you are allowing them to make you feel that way.

Often times people ask me how come most of the time I’m so happy, energetic and optimistic, and my response usually would be, “I try not to let anything and/or anyone control my emotions.” I refuse to give anyone the power to make me feel any kind of way! However, that doesn’t mean that I sometimes don’t get angry, sad, scared, embarrassed or intimidated. ’cause believe me I do. I just don’t let myself linger on the emotions for too long.

Now next time someone wants to make you feel inferior by pissing you off or intimidating you, ask yourself if its worth your energy. Then brush off the feeling and take control!!

D. Arelis XO

My morning routine before work

So I was asked by a colleague to write about my morning routine. So here it is.

My mornings start around 6am. I wake up and first thing I do is put on worship music. Worship gets me going. It brings my life into balance and gives me energy to face the day. Lately I’ve been trying to get up earlier in order to squeeze a 30min yoga session into my routine but I fail each time my alarm goes off at 5:30am. Yea, I’m not so much of a morning person.

Afterwards, I take a shower and start getting ready for work. When I’m done prepping, I go down stairs to the kitchen, drink a cup of hot water with a prune or two (to get my digestion moving), while I’m making myself a green smoothie with spinach and whatever else I have in the kitchen at that moment.

Then last but not least, I take my dose of vitamins for the day which are, Omega 3, iron supplements, vitamin C, B12 and Forever Living Nature-Min and off I go.

D. Arelis XO

If not now then when?

“If not now then when? If not me then who?” – Malcom X

Is time speeding up or is it just me? Who else thinks that 2017 flew by extremely fast? I am still a bit astonished of how fast it went. As last year was coming to an end, I looked back at how it went and to be really honest it wasn’t that productive. Procrastination and fear played a big part of 2017. Fear of stepping out of my comfort zone; fear of failing; fear of the critics of family and friends; and fear of not being good enough. You see, fear paralyzes you if you allow it to. It makes you unable to move and act. It robs your peace of mind by telling you you’re not good enough.

You have to reach that point where you look fear straight in the eye and kick it right in the gut. As believers we know that: “Greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4). Take control of your thoughts — you have the power to do so; step out of your comfort zone. Believe that you can conquer every fear and shut out every doubt.

There are many women that have done this at some point in their lives. Three of which I admire greatly after reading their story. Each of the following women chose to rise above fear and doubt: 1. Queen Esther of Persia. Esther rose above the fear of failing. By doing this she became the one who saved Israel from an ethnic cleansing in 473 B.C. 2. Rosa Parks – “first lady of civil rights”. Mrs. Parks rose above the fear of what others might think of her. She became the first woman and third non-US government official to lie in honor in the Capitol Rotunda. 3. Oprah Winfrey — one of the most influential women in the world. I admire Oprah, she rose above many fears and became the richest African-American; North America’s first multi-billionaire black person; and first [black] woman to own her own talk show, which is the highest rated television show of its kind in history.

Now the question is how do we get there? How can we rise above fear? The answer is very simple, by putting an end to all the lies in our head. By telling ourselves that we are more than capable of anything.

Ladies, the time is now. “If not now then when? If not you then who?” The world needs you; the world needs us. There are things that God has called you to do that need to be done now. Be that courageous, ambitious and encouraging woman, daughter, mother, grandmother, sister, wife and friend that this world needs you to be. Tomorrow is too late. Yesterday is over, the time is now!

D. Arelis XO

“…and if I perish, I perish.”

I just can’t say this enough, I love the story of queen Esther. Esther was chosen by God to save the Israelites from an ethnic cleansing in 437 B.C. She was a brave woman. There was nothing that was going to stop her from standing against the edict of the king — not even the possibility of her losing her life. She entered in with that attitude of “…and if I perish, I perish” — completely confident and trusting that God was going before her.

As women in today’s society, it can be intimidating to step into the world and do what God created us to do. Being a woman is not the easiest. The thought of knowing that there are others that are more experienced than we are or perhaps can do things better than us can be frightening and needs to change. You see, Esther did not come from a royal family nor was she “equipped” to have the title of a queen. But when God has chosen you for a specific task, no living being on the face of this earth can stand against that. I can’t imagine how intimidating that role would have been for her. However, one thing I do know for sure is that she quickly understood that when God has a purpose for your life, He will give you all that you need in order to fulfill that purpose.

Therefore, just as God was with Esther every step of the way, so will He also be with you and fully equip you to do what He has appointing you to do. Be strong and courageous; you were made for such a time as this!


D. Arelis XO