“If not now then when? If not me then who?” – Malcom X

Is time speeding up or is it just me? Who else thinks that 2017 flew by extremely fast? I am still a bit astonished of how fast it went. As last year was coming to an end, I looked back at how it went and to be really honest it wasn’t that productive. Procrastination and fear played a big part of 2017. Fear of stepping out of my comfort zone; fear of failing; fear of the critics of family and friends; and fear of not being good enough. You see, fear paralyzes you if you allow it to. It makes you unable to move and act. It robs your peace of mind by telling you you’re not good enough.

You have to reach that point where you look fear straight in the eye and kick it right in the gut. As believers we know that: “Greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world” (1 John 4:4). Take control of your thoughts — you have the power to do so; step out of your comfort zone. Believe that you can conquer every fear and shut out every doubt.

There are many women that have done this at some point in their lives. Three of which I admire greatly after reading their story. Each of the following women chose to rise above fear and doubt: 1. Queen Esther of Persia. Esther rose above the fear of failing. By doing this she became the one who saved Israel from an ethnic cleansing in 473 B.C. 2. Rosa Parks – “first lady of civil rights”. Mrs. Parks rose above the fear of what others might think of her. She became the first woman and third non-US government official to lie in honor in the Capitol Rotunda. 3. Oprah Winfrey — one of the most influential women in the world. I admire Oprah, she rose above many fears and became the richest African-American; North America’s first multi-billionaire black person; and first [black] woman to own her own talk show, which is the highest rated television show of its kind in history.

Now the question is how do we get there? How can we rise above fear? The answer is very simple, by putting an end to all the lies in our head. By telling ourselves that we are more than capable of anything.

Ladies, the time is now. “If not now then when? If not you then who?” The world needs you; the world needs us. There are things that God has called you to do that need to be done now. Be that courageous, ambitious and encouraging woman, daughter, mother, grandmother, sister, wife and friend that this world needs you to be. Tomorrow is too late. Yesterday is over, the time is now!

D. Arelis XO

The greatest one of all

You know, sometimes people can really surprise you. It was one of those days where I found myself in that situation where I just couldn’t quite understand why certain people treat others (act) the way they do. These are the type of people that make it hard for others to love them – they make you want to punch them in the face!


During this past year I’ve been really working on that one commandment, “LOVE” – the greatest one of all. That’s right! I’ve been asking God to help me love like He loves. It didn’t take me long to noticed that which I was asking God for was not going to be easy. I quickly realized that God was allowing different unpleasant situations (people) to cross my path in order to teach me how to love, and boy oh, boy it has been a real challenge.

This morning as I was writing, a verse came to my mind, Matthew 5:46 – If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that?” Uh yeah, OUCH! That one slapped me right in the face. Basically what it’s saying here is that if I choose to only love the ones that are “easy to love/lovable”, I am no better than, let’s say, the “worst kind of people”. Therefore, unless I am loving the unlovable, I am not loving like God loves. After reading that I quickly stepped down my high horse and got my act straight again. You see, there will be times when you will get angry or disappointed at certain people and you will want to cut them loose, but then the Holy Spirit reminds you of that one commandment – the GREATEST one of all!


D. Arelis XO

Overwhelming Love

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – 2 Corinthians 13:6-8

I have never known a love so pure, so exciting, and so fulfilling. A love that is full of life!

Perhaps you are wondering, “what is love?” Or maybe you wander around with the question, “can I fall in love with someone today then fall out of love with them tomorrow?” I understand if you have these questions, ’cause I had them too. The answers to these questions are in the understanding of what love is. 

2 Corinthians 13 thoroughly explains it – you can consider it being a “love handguide”. I dare to say that it is better than any article or love book ever written. The way our society has portrayed love is unfortunately messed up. 

But let’s take a look at what love truly is. First of all, love forgives;  it is kind, it does not seek revenge – it sees beyond any flaws. Love has the patience to wait – to persevere through difficult circumstances. Love is strong and courageous, It has no fear – it cannot stand beside fear because perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). This love gives without expecting anything in return; it is selfless, it trusts, and always hopes. This kind of love gives all. If we can’t love in such way, we have never known love.

God is love; if we do not know God, we do not know what love is (1 John 4:8). “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” There is no greater love than this. But, as I was meditating on this I came across something else.

Romans 5:10 tells us that we were enemies of God, until we were reconciled with him through the death of Jesus. Now this verse here just took my understanding of “love” to another level. So, “before Christ died, we were enemies of God”. Seriously, I don’t know about you but to me, the thought of someone giving their life for their enemies, is just mind-blowing! I most probably have read this verse a thousand times, but as I was trying to find out the meaning of true love, I got a complete different view of this verse. Hmm, is it just me or does Matthew 5:44, “Love your enemies…” makes so much sense now? This goes beyond human understanding. 

A love that sees beyond the imperfections. A love that, even though we did not deserve anything, yet allowed us to have it all. A love that goes deeper than the deepest ocean. A love that only comes from God – it’s overwhelming isn’t it?!

D. Arelis XO