WHEN GOD DOESN’T ANSWER

In a world where anything you want is just a click away; where food can be ordered through an app and delivered to your door in less than an hour, it can get frustrating when you’re asking God for something and all you hear is silence.

Unanswered prayers can trigger many emotions within us – from confusion to disappointment to anger. Often times these emotions not only show our lack of understanding of how God moves but it also leads us into thinking that He is not listening.

WHEN THE ANSWER IS NO
A “no” answer from God can be the most difficult thing to accept. Although we know it is for our own good, we still want to know why He is choosing not to give us what we’re asking for. However, ultimately it doesn’t matter how much you pray; or how much effort you put into getting that which you want because at the end of the day if it does not align with His will, it will not be given to you. Trust that when He closes one door it’s to protect you and redirect you – even if it hurts. God is moving in your favor.

WHEN THE ANSWER IS WAIT
Now when He tells us to wait it’s because it’s not the right timing. We live in a time where everything is fast-paced and waiting is the one thing nobody has time for. I mean, nobody likes to wait. It requires patience and trust. Two things many of us lack. Now when it comes to our prayer life, this is the exact attitude we adopt towards God. Understanding what it means to wait is grasping the thought of what it is to not do anything; to let time go by until something happens – until you see His hand move. Trust in His timing. Believe that if he’s done it before, He will sure do it again.

With all that being said, remember that God wants to answer your prayers. He wants to give you the desires of your heart. But all in accordance to His will. His Word tells you to “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” (Matthew 7:7-11).

Trust His will; trust His timing!

 

D. Arelis

GOD IS NOT A GOD OF CRUMBS

What if you were meant for more but you are settling for less? What if you were called to stand out but instead you are comfortable fitting in? 

To settle means to remain at a certain level. To “settle for crumbs” means to remain at a lower level than where you’re suppose to be. Whether it’s a job below a certain skill/pay level, a partner, a house, friends etc., if it does not meet your standards, don’t settle for it. Remember, “He made you the head and not the tail; he has put you on top and never at the bottom” (Deuteronomy 28:13). God does not do average so neither should you.

KNOW YOUR WORTH

The other day I was having one of those father-daughter conversations with my dad about life decisions, and he said something that stuck with me: “God is not a God of crumbs”. How true is this?! That moment I stepped outside of the box I was in mentally in order to be able to look at myself from a different perspective – from God’s perspective. You see, too often we choose to stay in situations with no room for improvement, even when we are well aware that God always has His absolute best in store for us.

HIS ABSOLUTE BEST

But why do we still choose to settle for crumbs? Well more often than not, people either want 1. a quick fix; 2. are under pressure; or/and 3. don’t believe they will or can find something better. When Job’s wife suggested him to settle by cursing God and die — after losing his children, his life-stock and his properties — he chose not to. And the Word of God tells us that therefore, “the Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. He had fourteen thousand sheep, six thousand camels, a thousand yoke of oxen and a thousand donkeys. And he also had seven sons and three daughters. Nowhere in all the land were there found women as beautiful as Job’s daughters, and their father granted them an inheritance along with their brothers. After this, Job lived a hundred and forty years; he saw his children and their children to the fourth generation. And so Job died, an old man and full of years” (Job 42:12-17).

With all this being said, settling for less, will rob you of God’s best. I love the story of Job, there are so many powerful life lessons we can learn, including the part where he chose not to settle. He did not go for a quick fix; he did not allow the pressure of his wife get to him and neither did he allow his current situation stop him from believing that God had something better in store. And I am convinced that his way of thinking developed the moment he said: “I know that You can do all things; no purpose of Yours can be thwarted” (Job 42:2).

When it comes to your life choices today, are you eating at the table or picking up crumbs off the floor?

 

D. Arelis

And sometimes you just gotta lay down your ‘Isaac’

Letting go can be one of the most difficult things you get to do in this life. Whether it’s your past, a bad relationship, or that dream job you’ve always wanted — it’s not easy. However, in order for God to move on your behalf, it is necessary.

LET GO AND TRUST

We are all familiar with the story of Abraham and his boy Isaac — the child of the promise. Now, one day God said to Abraham, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love — Isaac — and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you” (Genesis 22:2).

And you may ask yourself “well why did God ask Abraham to lay down the one thing that mattered to him the most?” Simple, because He was giving Abraham a second chance. A second chance to let go and trust Him completely. The first chance Abraham had was during his waiting season. And we all know how that part of the story went. Yes, he failed in trusting God when he decided to take matters into his own hands and impregnated Hagar. So this time around, Abraham wasn’t planning to fail another test. Long story short, God did not allow him to harm his child.

LAY DOWN YOUR ISAAC

With all that being said, we all have an ‘Isaac’ God is asking us to lay down. Laying down your ‘Isaac’ means completely submitting what matters to you the most. Surrendering your will to His’. In some cases, God asks us to let go only to return it all back. Yet in other cases, things and/or people are just not meant to stay. Once you lay it all down, you’re allowing God to show His glory through you and through your situation.

NEW WINE INTO NEW WINESKINS

There’s a parable of Jesus in Matthew that explains how the old and the new are not compatible. “And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins” (Matthew 2:22). You see, old wineskins are stretched to their limit each time wine is fermented inside of them. Therefore, pouring new wine in stretched wineskins will cause it to burst. Now the same goes for you and I when it comes to asking God to bless us while we are still holding on to our past. It doesn’t work. We have to let go of the old so that the new can take place.

What is God asking you to let go of today?

 

D. Arelis

AFFIRMATIONS FOR THE SOUL

Affirmations are short powerful statements that have a healing effect on our subconscious mind when repeated over time.

By writing and speaking out affirmations, you activate a part of your brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS) at the top of the brain stem. The RAS makes the words that we repeat over time, become part of who we are. So the next time someone tells you that affirmations are silly, educate them about how affirmations not only changes your reality but they will absolutely benefit your mental and physical health too.

The other part of the brain that is activated by the conscious repetition of affirmations is the ventral striatum and the ventromedial prefrontal cortex. In response, these parts of the brain release chemicals that help – amongst other things – tos desease levels of stress, encourage healthy behaviors, and improve academic performance.

To conclude, keep in mind that affirmations only work: 1. When you believe they are true; if you’re just going through the motions, affirmations simply won’t work; and 2. When you say them properly. Studies have shown that the subconscious mind differentiate between past and future and, only reacts on the now. As such, it’s important to make sure that the language of your affirmations is centered in the presence.

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With all this said, let me introduce my second book “Affirmations for The Soul”. Consisting of 30 short affirmations, this book will help you refocus your subconscious mind and reap the benefits of a calmer and more positive outlook. You can download it as an ebook from iTunes and Amazon and it will be available in more formats shortly.

D. Arelis

Forming pathways

“As a man thinketh, so is he…”

Sometimes we focus more on removing toxic people from our lives and forget to remove our own toxicity. Yes, we all have toxic behaviors.

Our thoughts are extremely powerful. Imagine you have a peeled lemon in your hand. Now visualize yourself taking a bite out of this lemon. I bet your mouth is watery now, right?

This is a perfect example of how your thoughts can control your reality. Even though you know that in reality you’re not biting a lemon, your mind perceives it as a reality and because your brain thinks as such, it starts sending signals to the glands in your mouth which then causes you to salivate.

Now, the same goes for those self-destructive thoughts you allow to go through your mind daily. One thought affects your entire being by making you depressed; making you loose your appetite; interrupt your sleeping pattern – it controls your reality. These thoughts become a habit. Luckily, a habit that can be dealt with. How?

Let’s look at it from a biological perspective. Neural pathways are formed in our brain when we start creating habits. These habits consist of negative, repetitive thoughts. Repetitive thoughts form neural pathways in our mind and the more these thoughts are reinforced, the stronger these pathways become and the more automatically they become.

Now, in order to deal with the habit, you need to first of all, understand that new habits take approximately 18 days to 254 days to form. So be patience. Patience is one of the first steps towards the habit. Secondly, speak against that thought and replace it with the opposite regardless of how you’re feeling.

In conclusion, it’s basically the “law of attraction”. Change your mindset and you will change your ways. Start forming constructive pathways today!

 

D. Arelis XO

 

 

Wolves don’t lose sleep over opinions of sheep

One thing I like the most about writing is the transparency I am able to give to my readers. Lately I’ve been dealing with trying not to let certain people get the best of me. But what do you do when people are spreading lies about you? What do you do when people go out of their way to try to make you feel inferior? Simple, ignore their unstable behavior — don’t allow them to make you feel any kind of way. Be in complete control of your emotions. The moment you start feeling angry, sad, intimidated, is because you are allowing them to make you feel that way.

Often times people ask me how come most of the time I’m so happy, energetic and optimistic, and my response usually would be, “I try not to let anything and/or anyone control my emotions.” I refuse to give anyone the power to make me feel any kind of way! However, that doesn’t mean that I sometimes don’t get angry, sad, scared, embarrassed or intimidated. ’cause believe me I do. I just don’t let myself linger on the emotions for too long.

Now next time someone wants to make you feel inferior by pissing you off or intimidating you, ask yourself if its worth your energy. Then brush off the feeling and take control!!

D. Arelis XO

My morning routine before work

So I was asked by a colleague to write about my morning routine. So here it is.

My mornings start around 6am. I wake up and first thing I do is put on worship music. Worship gets me going. It brings my life into balance and gives me energy to face the day. Lately I’ve been trying to get up earlier in order to squeeze a 30min yoga session into my routine but I fail each time my alarm goes off at 5:30am. Yea, I’m not so much of a morning person.

Afterwards, I take a shower and start getting ready for work. When I’m done prepping, I go down stairs to the kitchen, drink a cup of hot water with a prune or two (to get my digestion moving), while I’m making myself a green smoothie with spinach and whatever else I have in the kitchen at that moment.

Then last but not least, I take my dose of vitamins for the day which are, Omega 3, iron supplements, vitamin C, B12 and Forever Living Nature-Min and off I go.

D. Arelis XO