RELAX

Be still; surrender; relax — something that does not come naturally for many. To relax means to let go of what is causing the mind to be troubled. It means to take a step back of that which is making you feel pressed down, disturbed, restless and with no calmness within. When we lay back and relax, we are giving God the platform to do what only He can do.

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THINGS MATURE WOMEN DON’T DO

THEY DON’T COMPARE THEMSELVES TO OTHER WOMEN

Comparing achievements, happiness and possessions can be draining. Therefore, the only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. Make it your goal to be better than you were the day before.

THEY DON’T ENTERTAIN TOXIC/ CHILDISH BEHAVIOR

Ignore attention seeking types of behavior by not feeding to it. Resist the urge of wanting to jump into their little game.

THEY DON’T PAY ATTENTION TO PUBLIC OPINION

Do your own thing regardless of what people think you should or should not do. Trust that only you know what is needed for your personal growth and development. Believe that you are capable to do anything you set your mind in doing.

THEY DON’T COMPETE WITH OTHER WOMEN

Be confident of what you bring to the table. A grown woman will never find the need to compete with another woman. She does her own thing and strongly believes that if something is meant to be, it will happen. If it doesn’t happen, it was never meant for her to begin with.

THEY ARE NOT PRONE TO FLY OFF THE HANDLE

Know how to respond to difficult situations and still keep your cool. Keep it calm, observe, analyze as you handle the situation with wisdom, dignity and class. Formulate what you want to say in the most grammatically correct and eloquent way. Express it carefully and calmly. Then shut up. Because girl, lashing out is not cute.

D. Arelis

BEING A MARY WHEN EVERY PART IN YOU WANTS TO ACT LIKE A SARAH

Sometimes we want to operate in faith but still be a realist. We say we believe God can do the impossible but when the impossible presents itself, we laugh.

“Where is your wife Sarah?” they asked him. “There, in the tent,” he said. Then one of them said, “I will surely return to you about this time next year, and Sarah your wife will have a son.” Now Sarah was listening at the entrance to the tent, which was behind him. Abraham and Sarah were already very old, and Sarah was past the age of childbearing. So Sarah laughed to herself as she thought, “After I am worn out and my lord is old, will I now have this pleasure?” Then the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh and say, ‘Will I really have a child, now that I am old?’ Is anything too hard for the Lord? I will return to you at the appointed time next year, and Sarah will have a son.”  – Genesis 18:9-14

Faith

Aren’t we often times just like Sarah?! The moment a situation seems impossible/ unrealistic, we doubt, we lose hope, we laugh. You’d be surprised how many people struggle with the lack of faith. I know a bit too well that it is not easy to have faith when all feels uncertain. But believing in what we cannot see is what faith is all about. It is not a feeling, it is a choice – especially in the uncertainty. A choice we have to make each day in order to see the hand of God move.

His promises

“Blessed is she who believed that the Lord will fulfill His promises to her” – Luke 1:45

Now unlike Sarah, Mary did not laugh. Mary believed the Word of the Lord the moment she was told that she would give birth to the Messiah, while being a virgin. I mean, you would think if there was someone that had a valid reason to doubt, that would be Mary, right?! But she did not – she chose to believe that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her.

Two women, same promise, different story. One was like “this must be a joke right?” And the other went into complete surrender and chose to let God handle it.

Blessed is she who believes all she is going through is to prepare her for the woman she was created to be.

We might not know how, where or when, but one thing we can be sure of is that God will fulfill His promises regardless how impossible or unrealistic it may all look. Just like Mary, blessed is she who believes all she is going through is to prepare her for the woman she was created to be. Blessed are those who blindly lay down their future plans, goals and heart’s desires, in His hands.

Do not get discouraged, everything is possible with God.

5 HABITS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE HAVE

  1. THEY EDUCATE THEMSELVES

When I say educate yourself, I am not referring to a college or university degree. I am referring to research. Do your research before you write or debate on a topic. And no, Wikipedia is not a reliable source. Use a source that provides thorough, well-reasoned theory, argument and/or discussion. Knowledge is power. In order to be successful in life you need to be well educated; well informed.

2. THEY SET GOALS AND STICK TO THEM

No matter how blurry your vision may get along the way, stay focused on what you have set your mind on. Do what you said you were going to do. Live according to the standards you advocate.

3. THEY GO THE EXTRA MILE

Whether it’s at the company you are currently working for or perhaps within your own business, a competitive market requires you to do everything you can to be one step ahead of your competition. Therefore, always go the extra mile, it will get you a long way.

4. THEY COMMUNICATE CLEARLY

Communication is an important skill in any relationship, whether it is with a partner, at your job or with friends, it will take you far. Articulate your ideas, questions and know how to communicate effectively. Know when to speak and when not to.

5. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID OF FAILURE

Many of us are afraid of the unknown. Afraid of not knowing what to expect. You see, failing is part of life. In order to succeed, we will fail first. Before Henry Ford made it in life, he went bankrupt 3 times. Not once but three times. My point? Often times, in order to succeed, we will first fail a few times. And that’s ok. Failing molds us into the person we are created to be and leads us unto the path we are destined to walk on.

5 SHORT WRITING TIPS FOR BEGINNERS

  1. Outline

If you often find yourself rambling on a topic without having any structure, try outlining first. Outlining will help you organize your ideas, it will give you a sense of direction.

2. Research

Do your research before writing on any topic. Knowledge is power. The more you know of the topic you are writing about the more intrigued your readers will be.

3. TEMPTING HEADLINES

It is essential to spent at least 20% of your time on the headline of your content. Why? Because if your headline sucks, no one is going to even bother reading the content. Therefore, headlines are extremely important.

4. straight forward

Don’t ramble. This is a challenge for many writers. Don’t keep writing the same thing over and over again. Stick to the topic. When you keep repeating yourself, your readers lose interest.

5. EDIT AND Proofread thoroughly

Typos and errors make your work seem unprofessional. Always go back to what you’ve written, check then double check. If you need to shorten, delete and/or re-write, do so. You will look your best when your content is without any mistakes.

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FEAR WEAKENS THE IMMUNE SYSTEM

We are living in some very scary times. The fear is visible. The fear of getting infected with the COVID-19 virus; the fear of your loved ones getting infected; the fear of what the future holds financially; the fear of the unknown. It is controlling our every move and decision making. It is making us sick!

IMMUNE SYSTEM

Our state of mind affects one’s state of health. When we allow fear to take over our thoughts, it can have serious health consequences – our heart rate increases and we develop high levels of adrenaline and stress hormones. When this remains constant, our fight or flight response activates. The fight or flight response is the instinctive response your body gives when faced with a dangerous situation. When it’s on, the body releases stress hormones. These stress hormones weaken the immune system, which makes us vulnerable to infections and diseases.

FEAR NOT

I know it’s easier said then done but I will say it anyway, fear not! You see, “heaven is His throne and the earth is His footstool” (Isaiah 66:1). Meaning, God is above all. He is in control; He will always be in control. We can either continue to fill our minds with the latest news headlines allowing fear to take over our body, or we can choose to rest in that blessed assurance and stillness of His promises. So let’s rest in the promise of His word, especially during these uncertain times. “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).

If there was ever a time to put the Word of God into practice, it sure is now!!

D. Arelis

YOU CAN’T CHANGE SOMETHING UNTIL YOU ACKNOWLEDGE IT

“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.” Proverbs‬ ‭31:8‬‬‬

Imagine trying to make an important statement to someone only to realize that the person hasn’t been listening to a word you’re saying. Very frustrating, right? This is exactly what is happening to our world today. The minority of voices are crying out and instead of being an alley, we are getting offended and shutting these voices out. If the word of God teaches us to stand for truth and justice why aren’t we doing this?

SPEAKING UP

The story of Esther is a perfect example hereof. When Mordecai asked Esther to speak to the king on behalf of her people (the Jews), she hesitated. She was scared considering that in those days, anyone who goes before the king without an invitation, was put to death. She feared for her life. Seeing that she was hesitant, Mordecai replied, “Don’t think that just because you live in the king’s house you’re the one Jew who will get out of this alive. If you persist in staying silent at a time like this, help and deliverance will arrive for the Jews from someplace else; but you and your family will be wiped out. Who knows? Maybe you were made queen for just such a time as this” (Esther‬ ‭4:13-14‬).

After hearing this she stood up and proceeded to the king’s court with that “if I perish, I perish” attitude. She spoke up and the king canceled the edict ordering her people’s death. 

BREAK THE SILENCE

This is the attitude we are called to have. Just like Esther, we have been raised up for such a time as this. To rise up courageously and speak on behalf of those who cannot speak for themselves, defending the voiceless and the oppressed. However in order to do so we must first listen. Don’t take it personally what is being said. Be an alley, listen and try to understand. Afterwards, make their voices heard by amplifying it. Because you can’t change something until you acknowledge it!

How are you being part of the change today?

 

D. Arelis

BOOST YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM

A strong immune system does not mean you will not get sick. It means your body will be in a better shape to fight off viruses. Here are some ways to help keep it strong.

THE RIGHT DIET

Did you know that 80% of your immune system is in your gut? This is why keeping it healthy is extremely important. Ways we can do so is by focusing on a more Mediterranean way of eating. For example, consuming more fruits, vegetables, whole grains and healthy fats. Include fermented foods into your diet – these help build the good bacteria in your gut. Avoid inflammatory foods such as processed meat and fried foods. Also, avoid refined sugar as it increases inflammation which can lead to diseases.

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Furthermore, try to stay away from other processed foods/snacks such as potato chips, pretzels and rice cakes. Yes, rice cakes are not as healthy as we thought they were. They are made out of processed white rice which are high in carbohydrates. Furthermore, as you might already know, alcohol also weakens the immune system; it undermines your body to cope with infectious diseases, therefore, try to avoid it or reduce its consumption.

STAYING ACTIVE

Just the right amount of exercise can help boost your immune system too. Physical exercise has many health benefits. Not only does it help decrease your chances of heart disease, but it will help flush out bacteria out of your lungs and airways. It causes change in antibodies and white blood cells, which are the body’s immune system cells that fight diseases. 

STOP STRESSING

Studies have shown that the state of the mind affects one’s state of health. Thus, allowing stress to take over your mind and body can have serious health consequences. For example your heart rate may increase and you may develop high levels of adrenaline. When this happens, the fight or flight response activates. This is the instinctive response your body gives when faced with a dangerous situation. When it is activated, the body releases stress hormones. These stress hormones weaken the immune system, which make you vulnerable to diseases.

GET ENOUGH SLEEP

Last but not least, sleep reboots your system. It enhances T Cell responses, which is an essential part of the immune system. So try to get at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep to keep your immune system strong.

With all this said, pay extra attention to what you’re putting inside your body. Take care of yourself. Stay healthy!

 

D. Arelis

COMPARISON PARALYZES US

Comparison distorts our inner peace. It merges our attention towards our shortcomings while distracting us from what we are capable of. It completely blocks our vision to see God’s perfect plan for our lives. 

But why? Why do we find the need to compare ourselves with someone else?

SHORTCOMINGS

We compare because of our insecurities and fears. During Moses’ first supernatural encounter (burning bush) in the desert, the Lord instructed him to go to Egypt to convince Pharaoh to free the people of Israel from slavery. Moses was horrified of course. This was a task that was beyond his comfort zone. According to Exodus 3:11 his reply was, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” In other words he was like, “Listen God, I don’t know if you know but I am not fit for this job.” He didn’t think he was good enough.

Then God responded and said, Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say” (Exodus 4:11-12).

God was telling Moses, and you and I today, that it’s only because of Him that we can do all things. “Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord” – Zechariah 4:6. 

In conclusion, comparison prevents you to become the best version of you. Keep in mind that everyone’s walk in life is different. We all run in our own pace towards our purpose. Don’t allow comparison to paralyze you from moving towards greater things!

 

D. Arelis

BUT GOD…

Have you ever looked back on your life and thought to yourself, “Wow! How did I survive all that?” Most of us have a story to tell reflecting God’s love and mercy and so did Joseph.

Joseph’s hardship started the moment he was sold into slavery by his envious brothers. After being sold to the slave traders, he was sold again to one of Pharaoh’s officials – Potiphar. From being sold twice to being thrown into jail for false accusations for 12 years, things weren’t looking too bright for the kid. However, even so, “…the Lord was with Joseph and showed him mercy, and He gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison (Genesis 39:21). Long story short, a few years later the tables have turned. Joseph ended up being the second most powerful man in Egypt, next to Pharaoh. When the brothers became aware of the situation, they feared he was going to seek revenge. But he didn’t. Instead he let them know: “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good…” (Genesis 50:20).
When you read through each scenario of Joseph’s life, you see how God was forming him and preparing him for his purpose, to save thousands of people in Egypt and in the surrounding regions.

BUT GOD

Having said this, every single scenario in our lives has also been played for a reason. This past year has been a year of so many questions. “Why God? When God? How God?” I couldn’t understand the way God was moving in my life. Nothing was making any sense. It felt as if someone pressed the pause button on my entire career and personal life. I wasn’t getting the job I wanted and and other areas of my life were nonexistent. But God! Won’t He do it? Oh yes He will!
After job hunting for over a year, God opened that door with that job opportunity for me. And right at that moment, each past humiliation; hurt; rejection, made perfect sense. God was preparing me to walk through that door. Have I not been prepared, my old way of thinking and my old way of perceiving things wouldn’t have allowed me to operate accurately.

THROUGH EVERY SET BACK

Remember that in every setback God moves us closer towards our purpose if we allow Him to. No matter how irrational and unfair your situation may be, trust that God is always in the midst of it and means it for good. He is moving mountains we don’t see.

Are you allowing yourself to grow through what you’re going through? Are you ready to walk through that door?

 

D. Arelis